What Made December So Hard?
Trying to understand the unique needs of your child with a learning disability is hard to do. Communication becomes worse with fatigue and stress. Don’t judge yourself weeks later. Recognize that you were doing the best you could do at the time. That’s a lot, actually.
Parents tell me that understanding what their child wants, when it comes to parenting their child with special needs, can occur in an easy and smooth manner or an effortful and fatiguing manner. This is especially true of the Holiday season.
During the busy December and November months, tight schedules due to seasonal time off, parent and student events, plays, musical concerts and an increase in social commitments make it difficult to help the learning disabled child manage the “running smoothness” of their own central operating station.
To understand your child, begin with by viewing your own brain as a central operating station that manages incoming information so it can send out appropriate outgoing responses. You can feel that the weather is cooler. The temperature sensation is the information that travels to the brain. It’s the incoming information.
You respond by putting on a sweater. Ingoing information (noticing the weather), results in an outgoing call to action (such as wearing the right clothing).
Children need to be able to balance the incoming information with their outgoing responses. As a child matures, the brain learns to collaborate information more and more readily. The brain learns to do this. It teaches itself the best way to learn. This learning occurs naturally as the child matures no matter what disability may or may not be present.
For learning to occur, each child needs opportunities to experience optimum “running smoothness” of their own brain. Parents and teachers can help provide an environment that helps smoothness and coherence. The child’s brain can then learn how to learn to do this better and on their own.
Smoothing and calming, to promote coherence is a good idea. The more a child interacts with a trust worthy world, one that is reliable and understandable, their self-confidence improves.
A child will recognize their sense of mastery. Mastery of a complex task, instills confidence and furthers curiosity. Both very helpful traits in today’s society.
Coherence is the brain’s job as the central operating station. The central operating station is in charge of all brain mechanisms. This vital station must be operating smoothly.
View the teacher, parent and caring adults within the child’s life as helping manage the flow of smooth operations. This is felt, to the child, like a smoothly running central operating station.
In retrospect, you did all that. You were there. Your child was enriched and you learned something new, or the other way around. Either way, you do it right for you.
Human growth and maturation is a phenomenal wonder. It is more beautiful to observe than anything else in nature.
Contemplate peace for ourselves and for our children in 2020.
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