There is so much to toileting besides the obvious. Whether or not your child successfully voids while seated on the toilet, is less important than the behavior, actions and routine of toileting.
Let your focus be on teaching independence in getting on and off the toilet. Managing fasteners and clothing, cleansing after toileting [even without voiding], and washing and drying hands efficiently without supervision are all important steps you can focus your routine on. Progress is accomplished in sequences. The pace of progress is usually according to each child’s unique pace of development.
Give lots of support, expressed happiness and positive feedback for these small steps to independence. When your child does void or eliminate successfully, then it’s time for the “dance of joy” while you excitedly express how awesome it will be to have dry pants.
Dry or not, just keep the conversation going and keep the behaviors going for example, encourage your child to guess how long they will have dry pants. Discuss the fun of dry pants. Give “dry pants” a language and a behavior that you can label and bookmark for later conversations. “Do you think you’ll have dry pants until dinner?” Sound curious and excited when you say, “until we get to grandma’s house?”
Your child loves to see you happy. Young children are very motivated by their parents smiles and accolades. Make sure you’re always happy with your child’s toileting behavior for the undressing, sitting, redressing, hand washing phase and then be a little over-the-top happy when your child successfully voids.
Enjoy every minute of your child learning independence. Thank you, parent, for caring.