The Brain Power Of Love In Learning
Did you know that the heart helps the brain think? The brain works better when the heart is eased, when the heart is engaged. When the heart is engaged, things matter more. In this way, the brain and the heart work together.
When the heart is functioning optimally, a cascade of chemicals, peptides, and hormones are released that ease brain functioning.
When a child is happy, when their heart is engaged, thinking and understanding becomes easier. Learning is easier.
Teaching the experience of happiness and how to give and receive love, becomes important in light of this finding.
But for unique learners, loving themselves is hard. They often feel ashamed and try to hide their challenges from parents, teachers and peers. These misunderstood young people are certain that their struggle to learn can only mean one thing, that they are inferior. These students wonder if you learn in different ways than the teacher teaches, are you a failure?
We want to help these individuals value themselves and, by extension, the world around them. They matter. What they do matters. Their view of the world matters.
Here are three ways you can help your unique learner accept and love themselves.
1.) Separate your child’s value from their accomplishments.
We live in a performance minded world. It is easy to get caught up in valuing your child’s “accomplishments”, especially when the other parents are talking about their child’s grades or athletic prowess.
Try to appreciate your child’s view of the world and manner in which they problem-solve. Let them know you like how their brain makes sense of things. Find examples of “brain working here!” actions when you see your child concentrate.
The truth is that your child has inherent worth. Your first, and possibly hardest, job is to help your child understand this.
2.) Look for and celebrate the good.
By helping your child see where they shine, you can help them develop self-confidence.
One of the things I firmly believe about unique learners is that, because they think and see the world differently from the rest of us, they are gifts to humanity. Unique learners allow our society a different perspective. Different is good. Different is very good when it comes to creative problem solving some of our modern problems.
3.) Develop a gratitude attitude.
This takes us back to where we started with the heart and the brain.
Since the heart is closely tied to the brain and causes the cascade of chemicals and hormones that help the brain function properly, classrooms work hard to do things that cause this happy-heart/happy-brain phenomenon to occur.
Scientific research in the field of neuro-psychology has shown that the act of gratitude has tremendous health benefits and includes a shot of feel-good dopamine.
Gratitude makes you happier and improves your relationships. Creating a habit of gratitude orients your mind to look for the positive things in life.
With Valentine’s Day celebrated this month of February, try using these three strategies in your unique learner’s daily life until it becomes a habit. Watch how your child’s improved self-esteem helps them at school and at home.
For more information on how self-esteem has a positive impact on learning, consider reading my book, Unique Learner Solutions available on this website and through Amazon Books. (CLICK HERE TO PURCHASE).