How Do You Teach An Autistic Child To Talk And Relate To Friends?

by | Oct 8, 2019

Sooner or later, children will want to interact with their peers and they may feel a sense of frustration or hopelessness when they can’t get the hang of sharing. Mutual play and turn taking can be difficult and is often a skill developed later than their other typical friends whom have already established appropriate play skills. You can help your child with ASD in this area while in the emotional safety of your home.

To best teach a child with autism social skills, you need to describe the very specific type of communication expected of her in each specific social circumstance. It is very important to provide opportunities to practice in a low stress environment. Just as you provide opportunities to read, write, and do arithmetic, you should also provide opportunities to practice social conversations.   

During those practice times, keep in mind at what point and how much help is needed so you can guide them with respect during more complex social events. Children with autism need to develop self-awareness regarding their action on others. Try to help your son or daughter in these common social skills while at home and in a low stress, compassionate environment. Identify mutually respectful language to provide subtle cues for success.

Just as you might teach reading, writing, and arithmetic, it becomes necessary to teach social behavior.  Help your child understand their friend and family member’s non-verbal body language and facial expressions. Additionally, help her understand the context of her own body language. Use of words and the non-verbal content of speaking are all important aspects of human interactions and are needing instruction, patience and practice with your child and you.

Your daughter or son on the autism spectrum will have a much less stressful time at school when they have been introduced to basic human interaction such as sequencing for turn-taking, comfortable eye-contact and the ability to minimize their need to instant gratification.

Children with autism need practice at home in order to be successful at navigating the complex social rules of school. Your child/student needs to know what their strategies are and when to implement them. 

Let me know how I can help you tailor a program so you can see remarkable change and progress in your child/student’s ability to learn.  Contact me soon!  You can phone for a consultation at 530-244-7686 or email me at  My book Unique Learner Solutions has LOTS of helpful information also and is available for purchase here on my website ( or


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